16 Nov

So things are still kinda effed up with Rocker Dude.

I didn’t see him for over a month because homeboy kept cancelling on me. By the fourth cancellation, I was so confused and fed up. He must’ve clued in and assured me that he had no problems with me and apologized for not being attentive lately.

It turned out that he’d been dealing with some health issues. I told him I’d been feeling a weirdness between us and he assured me that if he had a problem with us, that he would have let me know. He even called back later that night and further explained his health issues to me. Of course I felt bad for him, because it was some serious shite and I couldn’t imagine having to live with issues like that. To further re-assure me, he then went on to tell me everything he liked about me and how much he enjoyed spending time with me. Phew! I felt so much better and told him so.

He told me he was going to the doctor tomorrow and that he’d call me after the appt. and let me know what the doc recommended. Well, the day came and went and no call from Rocker Dude. Of course I’d been worrying about him all day…I called him the next day to see how he was and it turned out he didn’t even go to the doctor. Bastard.

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This back and forth crap continued for a few more weeks until I called him one night and we ended up talking for over three hours! It was like he was back to his old charming self. It was such a great conversation. I refused to get off the phone (even though I had a hot pee on me) until he asked me out again. He finally did and we made plans for later on that week. I was feeling happy and hopeful again.

So we met up last week and things were a bit awkward at first. He didn’t look too well and seemed kind of angry. He later told me about some more health issues he had been dealing with within the last week. He was tired and kind of out of it. We managed to have a nice dinner and at the end of the night he told me he had missed me and we got a few kisses in. I messaged him when I got home, told him it was good to see him again and that we need to do this more often. He agreed and we left it by saying we’d talk soon.

Well, that was over a week ago and I haven’t heard from him since.

I refuse to call him since I was the one that called last week. I’m so tired of this crap. I never understood people who had such drama in their relationships. I thought they were idiots for putting up with that kind of crap. Well, now I’m one of those idiots.

I think I’m going to send him a message tomorrow and call him out on this. If his health stuff is affecting his mood, then he needs to let me know. If our month apart made him realize he’s not really into me anymore, then he needs to let me know. I don’t deserve to be treated like this.

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6 Responses to “Grrr…”

  1. The Cats Meow November 16, 2013 at 7:13 am #

    Your last line says it all for me. You don’t deserve to be treated like that. BOOM!! You two aren’t married. You can easily walk away from this guy who mistreats you. Find someone better girl.

    • talesfromthedotcom November 17, 2013 at 1:09 am #

      Yeah, I had a similar situation when one of the guys I dated had his dad go to the ER. I understood how busy he was taking care of him but after days of not hearing from him I got upset. I thought he would want to lean on me in hard times. I know not everyone is like that, and some people (men are notorious) pull away but he needs to realize what he’s doing to you and stop stringing you along. I have OCD, and I know how hard it can be to date while dealing with health issues but he needs to decide if he is committing or not.

      • The Cats Meow November 17, 2013 at 4:07 am #

        True story! I’m glad you’re being smart about the situation.

      • mysocalledadventuresinonlinedating November 20, 2013 at 5:59 am #

        I re-read your blog entries from when you had the ER situation with the guy and our experiences do sound very similar…what’s up with these men?!

      • talesfromthedotcom November 23, 2013 at 3:54 am #

        Oh man, it really beats me. I think they’re clearly not committed and rather than just saying so they preoccupy themselves and blame it on whatever happens to be going on in their lives at that time.


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